Finally sat down to see the much talked about movie "Te doy mis ojos" since i had a chance to listen to the director yesterday- Iciar Bollain. The movie is simple but has some excellent moments which are really intense. its basically about a woman who is caught up in a violent relationship with a man she thinks she loves and understands more than anyone else..she leaves him only be persuaded once more with the usual refrain of "i am a changed man", "i´m seeking help", "i can´t live without you", "you are the only one who can help me" etc etc. The development of some of the characters was really "trabajado" and i liked that alot. Like the sister who looks in from outside and can´´t understand her sister´s position and love for a violent man, when it seems so simple...or the victim, who so wants to believe in something, afraid to face the world alone; or the victimiser who is also victim, left alone in the end, not knowing what to do with himself...there are some intense moments in the movie especially the one love scene, the paintings which play such an important role in the whole movie or in the pain and trauma of the protagonist subject to a violent husband...like when he strips her naked and locks her out..only to find her peeing herself once he pulls her back inside..or the scene at the police station where she just breaks down faced with the whole idiocy of the interrogation and the suppression of her pain...or in the end when she says..no me veo, no me veo...i no longer know who i am...
It´s always a bit fascinating to be a spectator to this kind of drama...what really keeps a woman in this kind of relationship, all the emotional manipulations that take place... it was also interesting to see the whole "curing" process of the husband, going to help sessions, seeing the whole dynamic of violent men, their weaknesses etc and how they are forced to open up and discover an unknown side of themselves... its always problematic when they think they are seeking help for the other and not for their one benefit...they dont realise the problem is theirs to deal with, with the other person or not...
Anyway, these are just some of my sleepy musings on this film which awakens you to a path of self discovery...
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>It´s always a bit fascinating to be a spectator to this kind of drama...
That's the magic about catharsis that the greek theatre have been spreaded into western civilization: extreme emotional changes to result in emotional cleansing of the spectator.
For what you say, must be a very good movie.
hey, thank you for your comments. I really appreciate them. I wrote a comment about the search for (un)happiness but it got deleted..i will do so another time. Well, yes, i agree that there is a cathartic process in these extreme, emotianally heavy and painfully intense situations.. i remember the director commenting that what attracts her to a topic is an obsession she develops for a certain aspect, in this case the whole dynamic that plays out in a violent relationship. When i said it´s always fascinating to be a spectator in this setting, i was also referring to the whole anticipation of how it would play out, of the whole psyche of the violent husband, of where and what the fear and anger would lead, all of this within the context of our reality. What i also liked about the movie was a certain focus on the violent character as well, but not so much in the sense of a victim but in the attempt to reflect his thoughts etc..
un saludo
>> hey, thank you for your comments.
My pleasure.
And even following the "villain" psyche is part of the cathartic process too, AFAIK. Macbeth converting himself in an abject person slowly... Hollywood making heroes out of outcasts... the approach varies from director to director, but I don't know why, I feel the mechanism remains the same. From the perspective that violents and their victims needs to be sympathized... except from the view of a nitzchean, where "Pity makes suffering contagious", and might do feel to the person that takes the pity on, that is being treated like an inferior. Can result in retaliation against the helper too. Sympathizing can affect negatively the whole situation and future of the person, if not achieved with care for their sense of pride.
I believe the sister's role isn't as realistic as might be, but I positively believe is a good movie.
Un saludo para vos desde Argentina.
I am attracted to and fascinated by the idea you develop about showing sympathy or pity for the other,which, if not done with care, can do more harm than good, if it doesnt properly take into account the sense of pride of the other.. i wonder if this is what happens between the sister and the protagonist in the movie...or in the same book i cited- Carta Blanca- de Lorenzo Silva, in which he tries to also show the side of the defeated, but in my opinion, fails miserably, because what he does really in many parts is seek to justify in some way the barbaric behaviour of the Spanish soldiers..so that the enemy- the invisible moor- remains unknown and therefore, mistrusted etc while the spanish soldier- given a history, background or context- arouses our sympathy in the end..
I remember listening to a Russian philosopher, Sisek some time ago who was totally against the whole idea of understanding the "other" through their history or childhood circumstances etc..or of showing the humanist side of "evil" people like Hitler etc.. what he is interested in is more the GAP between the good-evil guy...
once more, thank you very much for your stimulating follow-up.
un saludo de Madrid
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